What Day is This? Alzheimer’s in the Family

We went to Newton Grove on 12/20 and stayed until 12/22. We went to Oak Grove Church on Sunday and then to Smithfield’s BBQ for lunch with friends. Everyone was so excited to see mom and she received many good hugs. After lunch we visited with Zona, mom’s lifelong friend for most of the afternoon. It was so good watching them interact.

When we got to mom’s after visiting Zona, I saw that a panel of the storage building was pulled out enough for a person to get through. I went out there and got spooked so I called Larry to come over before opening the building. We discovered that someone had been in and drawers to dressers had been left open. We closed the panel and that was that. I might add that I awoke around 2am to the sound of metal scraping. I didn’t see anything and went back to bed. Now we know what I heard. It’s a sad state in this country when people violate your space when you are home.

After Larry left, mom and I went to my daughter, Jeremi’s, house to stay through Christmas. We had a wonderful visit and mom did pretty well. Mom was taking the travel really well. She retreated into her books but she was in the room with us. She got showered with a lot of love.

I made sugar cookies with the girls, which was a huge deal for all of us. As we were making the cookies Ansley said,”I haven’t made cookies since Memaw died.” She then asked if I was making new memories with her. She is 6 years old. We talked about Memaw several times during our stay. Ansley just misses her so much. Hope is missed by everyone as she was such a dear soul.

My son, Amos and his family came over on Christmas Day and we had a lovely time. Good fellowship and lots of good hugs. Overall it was a good holiday.

Mom and I went to her house on the 26th and visited with family and friends. We came back to the beach on the 27th. It’s good to be back at the beach. The parts have come in to fix my storm door that was broken in a breakin attempt. I will install the parts tomorrow.

It has been quiet at the beach and we will be spending the bulk of our time here while we wait for her space in memory care. Today I hired a home health aid who will start on Monday for three days a week. I’m looking forward to the help. Of late I’ve felt depleted and have been suffering from some depression. I’ve been the only caregiver 24/7 for the last 7 months. I’m just not able to do it much longer. The memory care facility believes they will have an opening for mom soon. I hope they do.

Mom does not want to go but it is beyond me to keep her safe. That said, she doesn’t listen to me like she will anyone else. It’s normal but hard. This journey is full of ups and downs. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, the reality is that you must love them enough to do what is right for them. Sometimes that includes placement.

More later.

2 thoughts on “What Day is This? Alzheimer’s in the Family

  1. So glad you were able to make many good memories over the holidays. Hope you can get some rest now with help coming 3 days a week. Love you both so much.

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